Going to court to settle separation and divorce issues is necessary for some couples, but not for all. Some separating and divorcing couples are able to work together to reach an agreement about such issues as custody, access, support and the division of property, without going to court.

Mr. Gurley's services as a mediator will provide a neutral place for you and your former spouse to meet, help define the issues you need to resolve, keep the discussions on track, and help you maintain a working relationship with your former spouse - something that is particularly important if you have children and will need to keep in contact while they are growing up.

Mediation is not, however, appropriate for everyone. If you have experienced violence or emotional abuse, or you are afraid for your safety or the safety of your children, mediation may not be for you. You both have to agree on mediation for it to work. If you do not agree, you should look at other options.

In Collaborative Law, you and your lawyer, and your former spouse and his or her lawyer, make a formal commitment to resolve disagreements outside the court process in an atmosphere of trust and collaboration.

The goal of a collaborative lawyer is to settle your case fairly, without going to court.

The lawyers are hired to reach a settlement, not to go to court. If the process breaks down, the lawyers must withdraw from the case.

Please contact Mr. Gurley's office at 415.240.9953, or email gurleylaw@sbcglobal.net.